But, how could I? Work life balance can be a challenge to maintain. How can you expect a person to give 100% to their job, 100% to their boo, and 100% to their children, and give the remaining percentage to taking care of yourself? There should be a class in college that gives work life balance tips. Too bad there's not. All I know is, that math just doesn't add up.
But these are the cards you have in your hand if you want to have it all: a dream career which affords your basic needs and luxuries you enjoy, a healthy love life, and little bambinos of your own to run after. You have to figure out how to make sense of giving at least 400% effort toward maintaining your lifestyle.
You will become more confident because of the amount of control you have over your own life, and this will help you become more aware of the clutter in your life that you need to purge in order to move to the next step of being able to successfully attend to your other needs. Identify what is holding you back from becoming your best self and actively take steps to improve in these areas and hold yourself accountable. In what ways can you increase proficiency in aspects directly related to you? Health, education, cleanliness or organization, spirituality. No longer hold yourself back by complaining, wishing, or being embarrassed. You set the tone for every single thing that happens to or for you. This is what creates negative vs. positive experiences.
- Be fully present - put the phone down, turn the tv off, check out of work mode for a bit.
- Be positive - lighten up, loosen up.
- Be honest - communicate openly and authentically.
- Be warm - help your children to be comfortable with you.
You also must have an A-1 village to intercede for you in the event of your absence. You can't be everywhere, but your main responsibility is to the safety and welfare of your kids no matter what. On the same token, you have to ACCEPT help. Part of having everything under control is being able to orchestrate the harmony of all of the instruments to contribute to the whole.
Yin and Yang together form balance. Having your companion star keeps you from spinning out of control, so it is absolutely IMPERATIVE that you nurture your relationship with your significant other. If you don't, your life can become either utter chaos or just plain dull. You must cheer for each other, uplift one another, support each other, and come together to plan and map out the direction of your life. You must keep the communication open and fluid. You must have trust as well. But more than anything you absolutely have to demonstrate your loyalty to the fam.
Some team building exercises I find useful:
- Daily: take a few moments to show affection, chat about your day, cuddle.
- Keep a regular "date night"; no kids, no phones, just you...maybe a glass of wine.
- Hold periodic family planning meetings where you discuss ideas or update each other about things regarding the home.
- Have sex regularly and often.
- Make it a point to have a "thing". Something that y'all do together that no one else would get.
It is a challenge to find a job that works around our needs and is flexible to our beliefs, but there are jobs out there that do not provide for a healthy work/life balance at all. If you want your family to work, you absolutely CANNOT take an employ at a company that requires too much of your time, or sucks the life out of you. Otherwise, you will be useless to your team. Kids + Spouse. First, you have to do what is necessary. Find a source of income. The goal of your primary job is to have a good amount of responsibility so that you can be paid what you are worth, all while having to work THE LEAST amount of time possible. By today's standards that is about 30-40 hours/week. Anything more will be at the detriment to your family.
Once you land a decent "job", you put in some work toward discovering your purpose and finding a career that coincides with that. Then you must use that income to fund any certifications or investments you will need to make to your future. And then, you get into your correct field. This will help to make you a much happier and fulfilled person. Even if you must dedicate a lot of time, you will know that it is for the best. Remember, when you are unhappy, your relationships will suffer.
The key to happiness is balance. Balance creates inner peace. Peace resonates and emits an attractive frequency that brings upon calm. Calm gives the shortest and most direct path to greatness. Balancing your roles as a parent, spouse, all while pursuing your career goals is possible, but only if you are equipped for the challenge. This means you are as healthy as you can be mentally, physically, emotionally. You can have it all. Go after it, and the doors will open.