I took it upon myself to secretly interview people that I know that I consider to be highly successful, and it seems that most of them have pretty much the same ingredients. It brings to mind the old adage "If it ain't broke, don't fix it". Of course, the finished product is relative to each person, but if you want to find out how to attract money, prosperity, confidence, and happiness into your life, please keep reading.
1. Be Passionate About What You Do.
We've all read and heard so many motivational stories where a recurring theme is, "I was tired of punching a clock", "I was tired of hating my job", "I was tired of living for the weekend". So many people spend the majority of their lives doing things that drain them, make them bitter, or take away from their time to follow their dreams. Do you love your job? Do you even like it?! Why waste your time doing something that stifles you instead of sparks you? The average person spends 2 hours round-trip commuting, 9 hours working for "the man", 1 hour unwinding from the day. This is literally 50% of your life. Factor in 6-8 hours of sleep, and you only really have 4-6 hours a day to really be yourself. To really break it down, you spend most of that free time eating, cultivating relationships, and really none to dedicate to Numero Uno. It's really kind of sad when you think about it. Your weekends are dedicated to errands and chores, maybe a birthday party or baby shower. Shit...FOOTBALL?? Whew! Your passion just keeps getting buried.
There are a select few people who have known early on what they want to do with the rest of their lives...and they go after it. The rest of us, had to: #1 face the fact that passion is important, and #2 take the steps to seek and discover what you love. I'm not saying by any means to go quit your job, bruh, we all got bills. But, try to take out a chunk of the day from one of those areas to dedicate to seeking. Find 30 minutes to meditate before bed or upon awakening. Turn off the radio, and turn on your voice recorder on your smartphone and tape your stream of consciousness during your ride home from work. Just say any random idea that comes to your head and go from there. Set aside a few minutes to connect with yourself and discover what it is that gives you passion, and pursue it with as much time and energy as you have available. At some point, somethin's bound to shake.
Most importantly, without passion it is quite impossible to do any of the others on this list, so...
2. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone.
You have to push yourself and maintain dedication throughout. Always keep in mind that things may get challenging; it may not always be easy or fun, you may even want to quit sometimes. Successful people overcome that. They don't succumb to weakness. They don't confine themselves to limits. Most importantly, they don't give up. It is hard to be self motivated sometimes. Especially, with so many distractions. There may be times where you have to take a pay cut to pursue your dream career. That lawyer that always wanted to be a teacher. That multi-millionaire that dedicates his entire wealth to a worthy cause. You may have to subject yourself to conditions that you aren't used to. You may have to get off your high-horse a time or two. Success requires dedicating your all. Sometimes even your sanity. I know dedicating myself to being a parent drives me nuts! You must have an assload of self-discipline. And having a support system or mentor helps. Maybe a therapist...
3. Never Stop Creating.
There is art in everything. The way you drive can be an art. It all depends on how you look at it. With that being said, creativity sparks ideas. Keep your creativity flowing. What is it that you are skilled in? So skilled that you would consider it an art?! Are you a talented athlete? Are you secretly a modern day Pablo Picasso in the flesh? Maybe Maya Angelou... Were you a nightingale in a past life with your vocal skills? Jimi Hendrix on the guitar? Whatever your craft, practice it faithfully. It doesn't have to generate much income, but I guarantee there is a way to use your creativity to at least pay the bills and sustain yourself. When you express your talents to the fullest, you will always be blessed. Remember that.
4. Never Stop Improving.
How many people do you know that just "never seem to want better for themselves"? Some people are just comfortable with the same old traditions, rituals, bank accounts... You must keep your eyes on the prize of just "being better". This really is a perpetual carrot, because you can always get better. I mean, even the best has room for improvement in one way or another. Who's the best, Kobe or MJ? I mean, who can really say. The most important skill that both of them possess is that they strive for perfection, no matter how elusive it may be, you MUST chase it. This can require you to look inward to find areas in which you can improve. This can be personality quirks. Posture. Weight and fitness. Find the steps to better these things and make sure to hit them all every day. Simply that act in itself will be an improvement. You might need to pursue a certification or degree. You may need to purchase equipment or software. You might need to make an investment. Whatever you can do to make an improvement or a small stride in the direction of success, do it. Sometimes that means letting go of that friend that is stuck stagnant. You need to drop that person. Get him or her out of your life a.s.a.p. That's definitely an immediate improvement.
5. Write Shit Down.
You have to write things down on paper. I would even say that it isn't enough to type them in your tablet or phone. Something about the act of physically holding a pen, putting it to paper or dry erase board, and seeing it in your own handwriting makes it stick. it's like it burns an image into your subconscious. It is proven that by writing your goals down, your chances of achieving them improve greatly. (Remember when words like "tablet", "pad", and "notebook" meant a bound collection of paper to write on? Sheesh...) Anyway, get yourself an actual pad of paper that is strictly for writing shit related to your goals. Maybe you're a sticky note person. Just make sure that you keep your written goals in a highly visible spot and constantly refer to them. Take notes. Revise them if needed.
I also would say that it is helpful to keep a journal and a planner as well. Keep a running to-do list and tackle each task. Physically mark each step off as you complete them. This will not only keep you focused, but will also help you to manage your time better so that you can maximize your realm of influence. Some people say that it is helpful to take 15 minutes before bed each night to map out the following day. Prioritize your list using characteristics like urgency or amount of time needed to complete it. It can help to tackle the biggest task first thing in the morning each day, and spend the rest of the day hammering out minor tidbits. Writing things down helps optimize your level of productivity greatly.
6. Keep the End Goal in Mind.
In order to do this, you must use your imagination. What you're working with now, may only be a pumpkin, but somehow, we can get you ready for the ball, Cinderella, honey, yaas.... If you think about it, creation happens in two parts; thinking or visualizing, and then manifesting. First you imagine, and then come the fruits. What is it that you wish to accomplish? Picture it in your mind's eye. Pay close attention to your visualization. What are you wearing? Who's around you? Feel the emotions you would feel once you accomplish the goal. If your goal is a certain car, girl, feel the wind blowing through your hair. Breathe in that moment briefly. This is called creative visualization. Daydream for a second, and then get back to reality. Now that you have your goal, you have visualized it, you must take action. Be proactive in seeking out your desired destination. Takes steps in that direction. You are bound to accomplish your goals if you just you reach for them.
7. Find an Accountability Partner.
Tell someone about your goal and have them hold you to it. Maybe this is your sister or your best friend. Tell her you need help staying on track toward achieving something. Maybe you can ask your fit boyfriend to train you so you can shed the pudge. Sometimes you need that extra push from outside because you give up, you lose sight of your goals, or you become complacent. Please note that your accountability partner, well....you may not always like him. He's going to tell you some things you don't want to hear. He's going to give you constructive criticism. Some of the feedback you get may make you feel belittled or uncomfortable. But use that as motivation. Set a regular check-in with this person to review your progress. It helps to keep yourself in the company of like-minded individuals. Join a support group or committee. It definitely helps to be around people who have similar goals.
I put this one last because it is the one that kind of holds it all together. You must regularly check in with yourself. You must unplug from everything. Social media, television, children/spouse, parents. Your thoughts. You must take the time to get away from all the distractions, cares, worries, inhibitions. Relaaaax. Set aside time for yourself to pause and enjoy the beauty of something. Practice yoga, mindful breathing, and meditation. Have a spiritual experience. Take some time to connect with the Master Creator. The one inside you and the One above all. In order to do this you will need to set some boundaries. You will need to make this a priority that you actually fit into your schedule. It cannot happen on a "when I get time basis". Eventually, you will never have time.
Success is what you make it. It is relative, subjective, and above all, it cannot be defined. I would love to know what your idea of success is. What does success mean to you, and how can you attain it? Feel free to lend your thoughts either below in the comments, or by social media.